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0:00Things I wish someone would have told me before I got married.
0:04My husband and myself have been married 38 years.
0:08And if I could go back and tell my younger self something,
0:11these are the things I would tell her.
0:13You're not just marrying the person.
0:16You're marrying everything that has shaped them.
0:19Their upbringing, their patterns,
0:21their habits. The things they don't even realise they carry.
0:25And you will, too.
0:26That's why Grace isn't optional.
0:29It's necessary. No. 2.
0:32Love is not enough, baby. Mmm.
0:34Love is the foundation, but shared values is what holds everything together.
0:40Because when your values don't align,
0:42love alone will make it feel like you're working overtime.
0:46No. 3. Learn how to disagree without tearing each other down.
0:51Because you will disagree.
0:53But respect has to stay in a room,
0:55even when emotions are high.
0:58Number four. You two will both change completely.
1:03The person I was at 18 is not the woman that I am today.
1:08And he is not the same man either.
1:10The goal isn't to stay the same.
1:13It's to grow and choose to grow together.
1:17No. 5. The small things.
1:20They're not small.
1:22They're everything. A door open,
1:24dishes washed, holding hands.
1:27A simple I thought about you today.
1:31Those are the things that keep love alive.
1:33No. 6. You have to learn each other's love language.
1:38For me is being heard and acts of service.
1:42For him is touch, is closeness,
1:45is connection. And love only.
1:48Works when both people feel seen and last.
1:52Marriage is a daily choice.
1:55There'll be days you don't feel it.
1:57Days is hard, days that you're tired.
2:00But the marriages that last are the ones you choose each other anyway.
2:05Every single day. Be blessed.
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