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0:00this I am going to tell you
0:01is one of the things that generate the most stress.
0:03at work
0:04if you manage equipment
0:05you manage people at work and you have stress
0:07listen to this because it is very important to you
0:10look I'm going to put you in what we carry
0:12the 4th effect of the adolescent
0:14the teenage room effect
0:15imagine you have teenage children and you tell her
0:18tomorrow when I come
0:19arrived from work
0:20this 4th one has to be tidy and your child
0:22your daughter tells you
0:23yes dad yes mom
0:24the next day you come in from work
0:26you go straight to his 4th
0:28to check if it is ordered
0:29and you find a pigsty ok
0:31I told you I had to be tidy every day
0:33I tell you the same
0:34I'm fed up with it
0:36ta ta ta ta
0:37your teenage son endures the downpour and you tell him
0:39what do I have to do to tell you this
0:41the other and continues day after day without tidying up the room.
0:43it sounds familiar because I work with a lot of people.
0:45well
0:46important thing about this,
0:48consider what hurts him the most
0:49what bothers your child the most about tidying up the room
0:51or endure the mess
0:53your child is much more annoyed by tidying up the room.
0:55that's why don't order it ok
0:57but to the father
0:58to you to the father
0:59it bothers you much more the disorder of the room ok
1:02what is behind this
1:04because if
1:05your teenage child
1:06bothers you a lot to tidy up the room
1:08and the only consequence behind it is that
1:11it's your anger that you think he's going to feel
1:15that teenager
1:16or that teenager
1:16he knows that it bothers his father and mother very much.
1:19disorder is worth
1:21but what is the consequence of
1:24that there is this mess and not order it,
1:26its anger.
1:27only his anger and what happens
1:29that it will pass
1:32will endure your anger,
1:33delighted or delighted
1:35because you'll get over it
1:36the same goes for your equipment
1:38you want to know why this happens to your equipment
1:40because there are no clear consequences or limits
1:42you usually move things and if it doesn't work out
1:44I repeat them again in the same way
1:46and if it doesn't work I'll say how the hell do I do it?
1:48but when someone is not executing what I tell them
1:51as I say
1:51is that it is not arriving
1:52the message is that
1:54it is more important to that person
1:55not to face what you have to do
1:57in this way
1:58and withstand the downpour
1:59and total point
2:00you are always getting angry
2:02welcome to the fight
2:03and at the same time we reaffirm that my boss is an idiot.
2:06she's a bitch,
2:07she's an exaggerator,
2:08she's an exaggerator.
2:10he doesn't understand me or whatever he always gets angry
2:12now I want to tell you something
2:14if you think your anger is serving as a consequence
2:17is that there are no consequences,
2:20okay
2:22usually when my anger no longer works
2:24with the person in front
2:26what we do is um
2:28try other things silence
2:30the some other trickery
2:32that our brains can think of
2:33with which it also
2:34we do not feel comfortable because they do not belong to a leader
2:37and we can't think of anything else to do
2:39what most people do not do
2:41is to make clear consequences
2:43you want to know how to set the clear consequences
2:45within your equipment
2:46because if you execute this and here is a consequence
2:49I don't need to get angry and things work better.
2:51tomorrow I will tell you how this happens to you
2:53managing your equipment
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