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0:02one of the things you have to train yourself to get good at is catching
0:06when someone is about to dog walk you
0:09you have to catch it in the beginning stages
0:12because the deeper you get into their process
0:15the harder it is to get out of it
0:17and the harder it is to recover
0:19it's not impossible it's just harder
0:21so it's better for you to catch it in the beginning
0:24getting dog walked can happen to anybody
0:28because the person who has set their eyes on you
0:31and decides that they wanna have dominance and control over you
0:36they're gonna take their time with you
0:38it doesn't just happen overnight
0:41it can be a few months it can even be a few years
0:45and the truth is it's easy for them to do this to you
0:49because all they really need is patience
0:52and they gotta be able to maintain access to you long enough to make it happen
0:57this can happen within platonic or romantic relationships
1:00it can even happen within your own family or even at work
1:05when someone wants to dog walk you
1:07meaning they want to establish dominance
1:10control and power over you
1:13everything about you your mind
1:17your emotions your nervous system
1:19when they want to do this
1:21whether they're aware of it or not
1:22it doesn't matter because the results are gonna be the same
1:27they're gonna play a game with you
1:29and this game involves a combination of playing with your psyche
1:35and playing with your emotions
1:37first stage of the game is to gain access and hook you
1:42so in a romantic situation
1:44for example this person will come to you
1:47and they'll shower you with admiration and praise
1:51this is how they get their foot in the door
1:54at this stage it's too early on to tell
1:56so there's really nothing you can do
1:58you just gotta allow things to unfold and see where things go from there
2:03second stage they're gonna study you
2:06they're gonna study what makes you tick
2:09what motivates you what your vices are
2:13they're gonna study what irritates you
2:16what hurts you they're gonna study what your childhood wounds are
2:21everything about you your whole biology
2:24your chemistry they're gonna study that
2:26typically doesn't take long for them
2:28especially if they've done a good job at hooking you
2:31in the beginning
2:33it can take a few weeks or a few months
2:36third stage they're gonna start grooming you
2:39this is where they're gonna test their knowledge
2:42they're gonna test if they can push your buttons
2:47they're gonna test if they can trigger you
2:50but they're gonna start it off very subtle
2:53and it it can also come off very innocent
2:56in the beginning of this stage
2:58this is the stage where they're gonna spend the most time in
3:01and this is the stage where you need to catch it
3:05there's gonna be a lot of back and forth happening
3:08they're gonna rub you off the wrong way
3:10and then come right back to bringing back the same energy from stage one
3:15or they'll kind of humiliate you a little bit
3:19whether in private or in front of people
3:21but play it off innocently
3:24and then they'll apologise and they'll bring it right back to stage one
3:28it's gonna be a repetitive cycle
3:30they're gonna kind of bring you up and down
3:33and the more that they're able to bring you up and bring you down
3:38the more they're gonna start to have control over you
3:42now typically in a normal dynamic
3:45when there's something going on
3:46you're supposed to communicate it to that person right
3:50because you gotta teach people how to treat you
3:52so that they can adjust themselves to be able to be around you right
3:57this stage is dangerous if you're dealing with this type
4:00because each time that you communicate to them that you're noticing things
4:07when you let them know the patterns that you're noticing
4:11they're clocking it and rather than changing their behaviour
4:15they're going to adjust their game plan
4:18that's why when I see content out here that tell people oh
4:22you're supposed to communicate with people
4:24oh this happened with your relationship
4:26why didn't you communicate it with them
4:28I don't always agree with those things 100%
4:31because there are certain people out here where
4:34when you communicate to them what you've noticed
4:37and you let them know the patterns that you've picked up on
4:40they'll retreat and to you
4:43you're like oh
4:44my god they heard me
4:45things are gonna be better Yay right
4:49but when they do come back
4:50start playing with you again
4:52it's as if they've up their game and they've changed their tactics
4:57and they've adjusted their playbook
5:00and you're gonna be lost again
5:02and it's gonna take time for you to subconsciously pick up on this new play
5:06at this stage what I recommend is communicate one or two times
5:12and if they're back on their bullshit
5:15shut your mouth shut your mouth and watch them
5:19you don't have to cut them off yet
5:21you don't have to do anything rash
5:23it's time for you to watch and observe
5:27so you can make a decision down the road and see how things unfold
5:31that's what I've Learned to do with people
5:33if I communicated once or twice
5:37if it don't work Imma shut my mouth and I'm gonna watch them
5:42they think they're studying me
5:44no bitch
5:45I'm studying you if this information was useful
5:48let me know in the comments I'll make part two
